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5 Conversations to Have With Your College Roommate Before Move-In Day
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Before You Match Duvet Covers, Have These Roommate Conversations First
Moving into college is exciting—new freedom, new friendships, and yes, new décor. But while planning your dorm theme might be at the top of your list, there’s something more important to talk about first: how you and your roommate are going to live together.
As a therapist who supports college students, I’ve seen time and again how upfront communication can make or break a shared living situation. If you want to avoid awkward tension—or full-blown roommate drama—these five conversations are essential before move-in day.
1. Are You Messy or a Neat Freak? (H3)
Understanding each other’s cleanliness standards is crucial. Maybe you’re fine with a little clutter, while your roommate needs things spotless. Talk about:
How often you like to clean
What a “mess” looks like to you
How you’ll divide chores fairly
💡 Tip: Create a simple weekly cleaning schedule together—it saves stress later.
2. How Will You Share Common Spaces Like the Bathroom or Kitchen? (H3)
Whether it’s a tiny dorm bathroom or a shared suite kitchen, you’ll need a plan. Discuss:
Cleaning responsibilities
How to label or share items
Expectations around guests using shared areas
Clear expectations here = fewer frustrations down the road.
3. What Are Your Pet Peeves? (H3)
Even the best roommates have quirks. Share yours early so your roommate doesn’t accidentally hit a nerve. Examples:
Leaving hair in the sink
Loud music or alarms
Borrowing things without asking
Ask each other, “What’s one thing that drives you nuts that I wouldn’t know unless you told me?”
4. What Are Your Signs of Stress or Frustration? (H3)
Sometimes roommates mistake stress signs for personal offense. Talking about your emotional “tells” helps avoid misunderstandings. For example:
“When I’m overwhelmed, I get really quiet.”
“If I’m upset, I might slam drawers without realizing it.”
Learning these cues helps you check in with compassion—not criticism.
5. How Do You Want to Handle Conflict? (H3)
Conflict is normal—it’s how you handle it that counts. Discuss preferences like:
Talking it out right away vs. waiting
Communicating via text vs. in person
Having a weekly roommate check-in
Establishing a go-to method now builds emotional safety later.
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Start With Communication—Then Pick the Throw Pillows
Your dorm should feel like a safe, comfortable space—and that starts with honest conversations. Decorating is fun, but connection and respect are what truly make a shared space work. Take the time to get to know how your roommate lives, feels, and communicates. You’ll thank yourself later.
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